I recently put and ad out on craigslist for a bi married riding buddy, the ad was more about finding a riding buddy but there was the option to get together with another guy and mess.
Got several possible candidates response, but got this one with a name that I recognized. Had a picture and I started to think it was a guy that I knew. I double checked the email address and it was comfirmed. I've known this guy on a professional level for more than 20 years, and now he's answering ads on craigslist about messing around with another guy?
It would be very different if he was the guy that had the rockin body, or a great personality, but he's not. He's the guy the I would argue with, now I might think that he was flirting with me, when it usually pissed me off.
So now my dilemma is to mess with the guy, ignore the guy, or surprise the hell out of the guy. I'm leaning toward ignoring him, but part of me what to send him emails, and draw him along for a let down, but that is to much effort with I have other guys wanting a response.
I knew something like this was going to happen at some point, I'm glad that it has happened like this with me in control. When I'm drawing from the size of pond that I'm in and then narrow it down to bikers, that pool becomes very small and the chances that I know someone goes up very high.
Surprise him. life is too shory to play games. Just might gain & even greater friendship over the reveal. Keep us posted.
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I think I'd at least let him know you're queer. I'd always opt to let another queer guy know about me if I get the opportunity.
ReplyDeleteI'm certain that he's married and in no way would want people knowing his desires for guys. I'm also certain that our personalities would clash, we did work in the same office for several years and attended the same college before that. Truthfully I would just rather call him a prick than see his prick.
ReplyDeleteI can see that. Thinking about it a little more, I could also see a problem if he knew you were queer and didn't feel the same way about you as you do about him. Then he might start hitting on you and it might be awkward to get him to stop.
ReplyDeleteI've had similar things happen.
When in doubt, do nothing.
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